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Why hypnosis doesn’t work… sometimes!

December 7, 2010

Upon hearing that I am a hypnotist, people usually utter a couple of quite common phrases…

‘ Will you make me cluck like a chicken? ‘,
‘ Will it work? ‘ and
‘ What if I can’t be hypnotised? ‘

All quite benine, yet very important, questions for the new client to ask, and yet the answers all seem to be subject to that client’s own free will.

I usually answer…

‘ Do you want to cluck like a chicken? ‘
‘ If you really want it to work… it usually will! ‘
‘ You’ve already been hypnotised, many times. ‘

Many people are under the misconception that hypnosis is some magical mind control system, wherein the client or subject becomes a robot, doing the bidding of the hypnotist. All very stageshow-like.

Let me assure you, when performed properly by a trained therapist, hypnosis is one of the most enjoyable experiences you can imagine. Complete relaxation, heightened awareness and imagination, positive suggestions and motivation bringing about positive emotional and behavioural changes. It’s all good!

Will hypnosis work?

Some people do take a little time to adjust their behavioural habits. If a client is not losing the symptom straight away it can either be because the symptom has a medical/hormonal route or that the root cause of the symptom is buried and repressed.  In this instance one has to discovery the root cause through analysis therapy and then reframe the original source problem.

Hypnosis works for most of my clients, most of the time, but not for everyone. I have spoken to the select few of my clients (and I’m talking one or two out of hundreds of clients) that can’t get hypnosis to work for them and it’s usually the same.

For whatever reason, they haven’t followed the whole process, listening and retraining their own minds every single day through the techniques I have provided and through the CD work. Perhaps they didn’t quite understand the process, not taken the therapy seriously or sometimes have even slipped back in to their old ways because it was far easier to do so.

What if I can’t be hypnotised?

Many people, if not all of us, usually spend most of our lives in one form of trance/state of awareness or another. They can be states that we have entered or states we have allowed someone else to influence us to go in to. You’ve perhaps heard of phrases such as ‘I’m not in that frame of mind’ or ‘I’m in the zone’.

One of the things that I try to do is to get people to come out of their every day ‘frames of mind’, to help them to understand how they get themselves into these ‘frames of mind’ and then teach them how to change the trances they have been in.

A very good example in a recent article gave great examples of  ‘trances’.

 

The Nutter Trance. Part 1

Have you ever been at home alone and may be decided that you wanted a cup of tea?
If so, how did you know you wanted it?

Many clients at their consultations when I ask this say “ I just thought I wanted one so I went and made it”. They listened to a voice in their head say it, so they did it. Ok I can go along with that. They did what a voice that no one else can hear told them to do. Sounds like either a trance to me or a nutter.

Can you imagine how any one who listens to these voices would feel if they said your life is no good or something else negative. What if all the voices in their head said powerfully motivating things that encouraged you.

The Nutter Trance. Part 2.

Lets revisit the kitchen again. I ask people “ have you ever been in the kitchen may be making a cup of tea, yet in your head you are running through an argument with someone”? And if so,  do you get really angry feelings in your body and get all wound up?

Usually they say “yes”

So on your own, with no one else around you are able to get your self worked up and angry.

Out of interest when you are arguing with the person, who is not there. Do you hear the argument in your head, and see them.

They usually reply “yes”

I then politely point out that they have been able to do the following.

  • Change their state.
  • Produce real feelings with no external input.
  • Create auditory hulanations.
  • Produce visual hulanations.
  • They were also able to interact with the fantasies they had created.
  • All done while they were wide awake.

Sounds a lot like hypnosis to me.

They usually get the idea at this point as I trust you have.

In order to experience hypnosis and interact with your own hypnotic adventures you do not have to be relaxed,sitting in a therapists office in a trance  – you do it any way!

 

If you want to learn more about hypnosis, or infact come and experience it for yourself, then please visit my website http://www.greymatterz.co.uk or give me a call on 01482 464928. I’d be happy to answer any questions you may have.

Alternatively, you could try one of my audio CDs and discover hypnosis from the comfort and safety of your own home. http://www.greymatterz.co.uk/cd.htm

The choice is yours,

Wishing you happy festive hypnosis,

Richard Scott
SNHS Dip.CH, SNHS Adv Dip.CH.Psy, PHPA, ICHM, NHSTA

http://www.greymatterz.co.uk

 

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How to choose a good hypnotherapist.

December 9, 2009

Hello,

Today I thought I’d share with you some of the handy hints and tips I would suggest if you are thinking about having hypnotherapy. Here is a guide on what questions I think you should be asking, in order for you to make a qualified decision.

1. Do some research

Choose carefully. Phone a shortlist of hypnotherapists in your area and ask a few questions such as:

•  How does hypnosis work?
•  Have they worked with people like you?
•  How many sessions do they envisage?
•  What training have they had?
•  Do they offer support between sessions?

If their answers are open and you feel comfortable about how they sound, this can be a good first step.

2. Ask about the cost!

Calling to establish prices may give you an idea of price but not of quality: better qualified hypnotherapists may charge more but may save you in the long run by being more effective more quickly.

With the exception of one session smoking cessation, your hypnotherapy may take a number of sessions, so take this into account.

3Play your part

Any therapy is a partnership. The hypnotherapist brings their skills, you bring knowledge of you. Be honest and open with your therapist. If you don’t feel that you trust them, go back to step 1. and find another therapist.

4. Talk about the trance state

A hypnotic trance is not like you see it in stage hypnosis – that’s entertainment – clinical hypnosis is therapeutic. People may experience trance differently: some feel heavy, some light, some drift off into a sleep-like state, some can hear every word that’s said.

Your therapist will have lots of techniques to help you access trance and can vary what s/he does to suit you. Talk to your therapist in advance about what it might be like and let them know afterwards how you experienced it.

5. Tell us how you feel!

Hypnosis is likely to involve you closing your eyes, sitting in a room with a hypnotist who you’ve only just met. Not the most naturally relaxed of situations!

If you don’t feel comfortable, physically, or with your therapist, say so, “I’m not feeling very comfortable”. Sometimes we feel a sense of politeness and believe that the therapist must be right, but a good therapist would much prefer to hear any doubts or queries. Then s/he can put your mind at rest. When you are relaxed with your hypnotherapist, you’re more likely to get the outcome that you want from the therapy.

6. Know that change can happen quickly and sometimes it takes a bit longer

Hypnosis can feel magical. Sometimes people make big changes that feel natural and easy, like stopping smoking after a single hypnotherapy session. But not everyone! If your issue has been with you for many years, it may take a number of sessions for you to create the new patterns of thinking and behaving that you want.

7. Be prepared for ‘homework’!

Your hypnotherapy session takes up a fraction of your day. Be ready to do your part in continuing your progress between sessions; your therapist may ask you to do ‘homework assignments’. These are negotiable! But it’s good to begin to do some things differently. Then you’ll more quickly re-establish feelings of control over your issue and you’ll avoid becoming dependent on your therapist.

8. Follow up

You may want to choose a hypnotherapist who offers support between sessions via e-mail or phone. With any form of personal change, you may experience things that you want to talk about with your therapist before the next session is due. Do check whether they offer this before you choose them!

9. Focus on what you want

We tend to get more of what we focus on. So instead of focusing on the ‘problem’ start thinking of what it’ll be like when the problem has gone away completely. What will you be doing? How will you be thinking and feeling? Look for your successes and take small action steps towards what you want. It really will help you to get there.

10. Keep a journal so you can monitor your change

One of the curious features of change is that once it has occurred, we happily blank out the old state of mind. Keeping a journal or making notes after the sessions will help you to see how far you’ve come.

11. Spread the word!

Many people can benefit from hypnosis but are nervous of taking that first step. When you’ve achieved amazing results through hypnotherapy, please pass on the details of your hypnotherapist to family and friends. Spread the word!