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Hypnosis for nail biters?

June 29, 2011

Hypnosis For People Who Bite Their Nails

My name’s Richard and I’m a clinical hypnotherapist. I help people every day who need to alter their way of thinking because they have picked up bad habits or cannot seem to break a cycle of negative thoughts and behaviours. So, I thought I’d share with you all, some information about a very common problem I help some clients with. And that is ‘nail biting’.
First of all, nail biting is a nervous habit. So the first part of my hypnotic therapy is to teach the biter how to be more relaxed at all times. To that end, I have found that traditional hypnosis techniques are very effective, and that’s because the very essence of hypnosis is relaxation. The individual can learn to apply several different methods to increase both the relaxed state, as well as his/her overall feeling of well-being.

The second step teaches the nail biter awareness of this unconscious habit. Post-hypnotic suggestions are then given to the subconscious mind to make you more consciously aware that you are bringing your hand towards your mouth for the purpose of biting your nails. Then you get to consciously decide whether or not you are actually going to bite them.

I help my clients to set up an “Anchor” or trigger so that he/she can momentarily mentally step outside of him/herself. This is an excellent technique that will effectively relieve the urge to bite.

The last part of the hypnotherapy for nail biting is to eliminate the compulsion to bite. Sometimes I offer suggestions that the client has a compulsion to not bite his/her nails, in other words a ‘repulsion’.

With nail biting behaviour, being realistic is very important. First off, you, the sufferer,  have rehearsed the unwanted habit thousands of times. You must accept that the urge to bite your nails will not be overcome in a few days.

Second, you are fighting the fact that it feels good to do, and it offers a lot of short-term satisfaction and either stimulation or soothing feelings.

It takes time and effort to master, but I believe you’ll find that it is well worth the effort.

 

Here’s some more general information about Nail biting for you to consider…

Skin picking, hair pulling and nail biting are all related behaviours. Skin picking, hair pulling and nail biting are labelled as Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders. People who bite their nails often keep their hands hidden in their pockets. People who bite their nails often feel social embarrassment and shame and experience out-of-control feelings at times. They often wonder why they cannot stop biting their nails and they also question whether or not they are sane.

Nail biting usually happens when people are in one of two modes. Some biters do it in an automatic way, as if they are in some kind of a trance and not really thinking about what they are doing. It’s often when they are engrossed in some other activity at the same time such as talking on the phone or watching TV, etc. For others, the deliberate picking or biting is their main activity at the time, and they will usually interrupt other activities to engage in it.

There is also a strong commonality in the purposes behind these three problems (skin picking, hair pulling and nail biting). At a very basic level, these symptoms satisfy an urge. Many report an almost uncontrollable urge to do them. Biting, picking or pulling also seems to deliver a pleasurable or relaxed sensation.

When sufferers feel stressed, doing these things has a kind of soothing effect on them and reduces levels of stimulation. On the other hand, when they are bored or inactive, they seem to provide a needed level of stimulation to the nervous system. This probably accounts for why so many people who have these habits find it so hard to break these habits. It simply “feels good” at the time no matter what.

Even if you suffer from more than one of these habits, do not despair. These symptoms can be overcome if you have a sufficient amount of motivation. More important is learning to “de-stigmatise” yourself. You are not crazy, helpless and morally weak or totally out of control, even though you may feel like you are at times. Once you become aware of the fact that you are just a person who simply happens to have a problem, you can make some serious progress.

Skin picking and nail biting are chronic problems, so there is not currently a medical “cure” but you can find relief if you are willing to work at it and hypnotherapy in my experience has been very successful at helping my clients do just that.

 

That’s all for now,

kind regards

Richard Scott
Clinical Hypnotherapist
http://www.greymatterz.co.uk

How to Use Your Mind Power to Achieve Goals

November 18, 2009

How can Mind Power help us to achieve goals? Quite simply, we tend to get what we focus on.  If anything in this life is achievable then by directing Mind Power it can be achieved.  But first we have to BELIEVE that we can achieve.

If I want to do something and I tell myself I can’t do it, then I will fail.  Unless, by a small chance something miraculous happens to put my goal in my path.  And even then, I may fail if I don’t believe I can succeed.

But when I tell myself, ‘yes I CAN do this’ – ‘it is a certainty that I can SUCCEED’ – then I am already half way up the mountain.  The summit will be reached by work and determination but knowing it can be reached makes that journey easy and enjoyable.

What often happens is that many people are so used to being put down in life, especially during those early years when the personality is being formed, and so they believe that everyone else is better than they are.  The teachers, the parents, the big brothers and sisters and so on – they all know better. . .

Unfortunately these are not always the best teachers.  With the best intentions in the world, a parent or teacher can destroy a child’s self-confidence and install a lifelong pattern of self-doubt.

SO – to achieve YOUR goals – forget about other people’s lessons in life (and I know I’m going to be criticized for saying that).  What is right for one person is not necessarily right for another (one man’s meat. . .) . .Wipe the slate clean and START AGAIN – believing in yourself.

State Your Intentions

Decide upon your goal; then say it aloud, or write it down.  This is known as GROUNDING.  Taking it from the thought form to the material form is the first step towards achievement.

State your Goal or your Intentions in a Positive framework.  For example, ‘I am successful’ rather than ‘I am not going to fail’.  This means you will be pointing that Mind Power in the right direction – i.e. success.

Visualize yourself as already having achieved that goal.  If your ambition is to be a top tennis player, for example, see yourself being presented with a trophy after winning the World Cup.  Don’t short measure yourself, always aim for the top.  If your ambition is to make lots of money, see yourself checking your six or seven figure bank statement, looking at your mansion, riding that sports car or whatever.

Think about the steps that are needed to achieve that goal.  Unless it’s something really easy, you’re not going to jump from where you are now right up to the top.  So realistically decide what needs to be done.  For instance, if your goal is to lose three stone in weight, you’re not going to do this unless you make some changes in your lifestyle.  This could be:- eating smaller meals, exercising, cutting out junk food, stopping snacking or comfort eating, etc.

Starting with Step One, visualize yourself (in hypnosis, preferably), taking this First Step.  Add all the necessary components to your mental image.  If your First Step was to eat more healthily, visualize yourself shopping for healthy foods, selecting those crisp, fresh vegetables or salad from the supermarket, preparing them – put in the aroma, the smell of fresh herbs – really imagine this, and imagine that wonderful taste in your mouth and how good you feel as you digest this healthy food – don’t forget the touch of those foods – you can imagine this as well.

And having gone through this in your mind, you have directed your Mind Power to help you to achieve, in a realistic way, the goal that you desire.  You have planted the right thoughts in your mind, and generally, whatever goes INTO the mind, will come out in some form or other.