What do women want from a man?
Seems like an easy question to some, but the answer isn’t always so straightforward.
While women may have varying preferences in a partner, studies and feedback from my own clients who have had relationship difficulties has shown that generally, there are some qualities (physical and emotional) that women look for in a man.
So for guys out there who want to improve the quality of their own romantic relationship, knowing these things might help.
And for the ladies out there, I’d love to hear your own critique.
Psychologically speaking, women are more attracted to red.
According to a study by the University of Rochester, the colour red makes men appear more attractive, powerful and sexually desirable for women. And the surprising thing is that women are unaware of this arousing effect.
But there’s a downside to wearing red, according to the researchers. They found that such colour doesn’t seem to make a man look kinder or nicer.
They want you to be who you are.
You really don’t have to be “Mr. Perfect” to win her heart. Women like men who recognise their flaws.
But they love it more when he makes an effort to address them. Nothing captures a woman’s heart more than a good man who wants to be a better man.
They want a man who listens.
It’s men’s nature to feel the need to fix things because they are very solution-oriented.
However, when something’s bothering a woman, she is looking for someone who could just listen, period. When she wants advice, she will ask for it.
They want a man who can look at them in the eye.
Men may feel comfortable sitting with their woman side by side but most women prefer face-to-face. As the old saying goes “the eye is the window to the soul”.
Making eye contact is a sign of sincerity and connectedness.
They want romantic partners.
Whether you’ve been together for 30 months or 30 years, romance is something a woman would always wanted.
Give her flowers and chocolates, take her out for a romantic dinner, cook her favourite dish, and kiss her good night. Simple romantic gestures could mean a lot to a woman.
They want it slow.
Men often take the shortcut when it comes to sex. Women, in contrast, like the slow lane. They need to be ‘romanced’ and appreciated.
They want to feel connected. They just don’t want sex, they want to make love.
They may like what their partner likes.
Women are more expressive of their emotions, especially when it comes to their significant other.
For some women, imitation is indeed the highest form of flattery. So don’t be surprised if she orders a meal that pairs with you, wear your favourite colour, engage in activities you enjoy, or mimic some of your mannerisms!
They want to be appreciated.
Women love it when their man says over and over again how nice they look and how special they are to them.
When they are wearing a sexy new dress, had a new haircut, or has lost some pounds, the first person they would want to compliment them is none but their partner.
They love to talk.
Women love to talk about the status of their relationship once in a while. It’s one way for them to know what’s going right and what’s going wrong.
Don’t be afraid if your woman starts a serious conversation. An honest, wide-ranging talk can bring the two of you closer to each other.
They want a man who empathises.
A study published in the Journal of Family Psychology suggests that relationship satisfaction has a lot to do with the way partners are able to read and empathise with each other’s emotions.
Women, in particular, are happier when their partner knows when they are upset.
They want to have fun.
Fun is something that often goes out of the window especially when the first child is born.
She may not ask for it, especially when there are more important things to settle, such as the bills, mortgage, job, etc., but deep within her is the need to experience pure fun once in a while.
It doesn’t have to be expensive. A funny conversation, a movie date, or a walk to the park alone with you, is enough to make her smile.
She loves surprises.
A hug, a kiss, or an unexpected telephone call to say “Hey darling I love you,” are simple gestures that don’t really take more than 30 seconds of your time.
Still, these things can significantly improve the quality of your relationship and make your woman fall in love with you over and over again.
It isn’t that hard to please a woman. Hope this article, doesn’t offend anyone and is able to help give a clue of what a woman may truly want from a man.
Of course, opinions vary so I welcome all feedback in order to improve any further client research.
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